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Barbara A. (Alexander) Kostek

January 21, 1930 ~ May 7, 2020 (age 90)


Barbara Alexander Gagnon Kostek, 90, of Morehead City, NC passed away and went home to the Lord on Thursday, May 7, 2020 after a very brief battle with cancer.

Barbara was born on January 21, 1930 to Raymond and Bernice Alexander in Milford, MA. Shortly thereafter the family moved to Hartford, CT. After graduating from Wethersfield High School in 1947, she went on to study Business at LaSalle Junior College and graduated with an Associate’s Degree in Business. After graduation, she landed her first job at The State National Bank in Hartford, CT, kicking off a very successful 32-year career in banking. Barbara met Laurent Dion Gagnon, and fell deeply in love, the couple wed on September 25, 1953. They had two children, Stephen Gagnon and Mark Gagnon and eventually resided in Stamford, CT.

Following the passing of her first husband in 1986, Barbara met Thomas Kostek in 1989, and they wed on February 24, 1993. She always mentioned how fortunate she was to have been blessed with two loving families in her lifetime. Upon retiring in 1993, Barbara and Tom left New England and settled in Morehead City, NC where she developed many close friendships and special relationships. Barbara and Tom spent many wonderful times together, socializing with friends, travelling the world and truly enjoyed retirement. Barbara was a very active member of the First Presbyterian Church where she served as a deacon and on the finance committee.

Barbara was predeceased by her first husband Laurent Dion Gagnon, mother, Bernice Dow Alexander and father, Raymond Alexander.

She is survived by her two sons Stephen Gagnon Mark Gagnon, two grandsons Dylan and Justin, her sister Elizabeth Kearns, her second husband Thomas Kostek, her stepson Mark Kostek (Cindy), stepdaughter Michele McMahon (Tim), six step-grandchildren and seven great step-grandchildren.

The family will hold a private memorial service on Sunday, May 10, 2020 at 4:00pm. However, a Live Stream of the service will be available on our Facebook Page at


One of Barbara’s final wishes was that in lieu of flowers that memorial gifts be sent to the

First Presbyterian Church, 1604 Arendall St, Morehead City, NC 28557



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First Presbyterian Church
1604 Arendell St., Morehead City NC 28557

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